hiya

from my own personal experience its a difficult experience. I wanted people to say something, and not treat me diferently, but then i wanted everyone to shut the hell up, and leave it for a while.

Personally I dont think she will tell you about it. Shes probably out with you to take her mind off things.

Maybe get her a little card, not a sympathy card, but say, a blank card with flowers on the front, and just put inside something simple like, thinking of you.

The worst thing people could have said to me was "oooh sorry to hear what happened" and "are you ok" they just felt like really dismissive comments that anyone could make, about a whole range of subjects.

hope all goes well