Hi, My name is Sissi and I am new to this. I wonder if anyone here has some good solid advice. I have been in an ongoing relationship with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. He is actually a great guy. One problem. He doesn't seem to like sex. I am the one with the drive and he is NEVER interested. He has always been this way but not as bad. I guess I am the one who initiated it from the start. My only problem is that since we haven't been together that way in 2 months... I am feeling neglected, unattractive, unloved and so alone. I have tried talking with him since the beginning and he feels badly and says it's not me. It's him. He re assures that I am very beautiful and he is very much attracted to me. He even went to the Dr and they prescribed a testosterone gel that is supposed to help his sex drive and even with that it's no better. I am growing more and more frustrated and because of it I am starting to nag him which he says turns him off even more.

He is 43 and I am 40. We both don't look our age at all. And I certainly don't feel 40.. so what can I do? He seems almost "lazy" about it. I have noticed that he can get an erection very easily with me of course having to provoke him some way.. but I have to beg him to make love to me... otherwise he prefers to lounge around. I understand that he works really hard and is tired and the kids (my kids) don't give us the privacy we desire and need. Any advice?
Thanks so much!
Sissi