i can understand people saying they cant cope when they have a new baby but when the baby is nearly 1 ???
maybe she is just very selfish and realises now that she has lost her youth and freedom?
if your fellas mum has the baby most of the time anyway then surely she should offer to take it on, i mean its been passed around enough already and needs a permanent home with someone it knows well.
dont like that word 'it' sorry but you didnt say if it was a boy or girl.