Yesterday, a friend brought her baby to my house. I noticed right away that her baby, who is one month old, looked a little yellow (her skin and the whites of her eyes) which to me suggests jaundice. Then, I changed her diaper and she had a green, thick, slimy discharge coming from her vagina. This friend is one of those people who thinks she knows everything there is to know as a first time mother, as does her husband. Besides that, she thinks her baby is perfect in every way. I have a feeling that by telling her, she will somehow feel like I am being mean to her and stop talking to me. Then even after that, she still probably won't take the baby to get it checked out! Any suggestions? I have the baby's best interest at hand, so I am tempted to just tell her and take the risk of her not speaking. But more than anything I feel like I will just be wasting my breath because like I said, I can tell her and she still won't take her in! HELP!!!

call child pretivite services on her.

i also have a friend who knows everything there is to know. i was in the same bind your in so when they came to visit again i purposely changed the diaper and showed her the discharge and i also printed off the internet info on jaundice so i could show her that the symptoms were the same. she did end up bringing her to the doctor and she still talks to me so i guess its worth a try. good luck

you HAVE TO say something! My son had jaundice at about 4 days and that's what his skin & eyes looked like! If it's not treated, it could get a lot worse.Please say something!!

You definetly should say something. Maybe you could say something like:Hey, I have a cousin who's baby was yellow and they found out she had jaundice. Your baby kinda has that same skin tone, has her doc mentioned anything about her being jaundiced?If she she reacts badly maybe you could have a few websites she could check out (research them ahead of time).Hope this helps!

Both of these things can be completely normal.Neonatal jaundice can take a few months to clear. Maybe she's educated about her newborn and knows this. If it is a NEW thing, it could be a bad sign, but it's hard to imagine she wouldn't have noticed if her baby all of a sudden turned yellow. Vaginal discharge (or bleeding) in female infants is very common. It has to do with the maternal hormones still being active in the infant's body. It's called "kleine regala" and it's harmless -- perhaps she knows this, too.Surely a pediatrician saw the baby at the hospital, and again at two weeks??Personally, I would say nothing, because it sounds completely normal to me. However, if you are really worried, then you could say something like..... "I couldn't help notice she's still a little yellow. Does her pediatrician think that's all right?"You are taking a chance, but if you are really worried about the baby you owe it to everyone to bring it up. What if you are right, and something really is wrong? Then you'd feel even worse. Just explain this to her -- even a sensitive new mother should understand that you mean well.But to me, it sounds like she knows what she's doing.

I have a psychological trick for you. First let me say, how the hell can this woman not have noticed the green discharge and the yellow discoloration. This is not a wise mother. Anyway, here is the trick. First, tell your friend you have to tell her something and you know how she will behave and describe in great detail how you know she will behave. Ex: "I know that you will be close-minded and shut me off. You are going to be mad and storm off and not speak to me and probably even end our relationship. But this is so important that "I AM GOING TO TAKE THE RISK" because I care about you so much that I have to face the negative consequences & your wrath." Then tell her. I guarantee, she won't act the way you described and if you know her well you should be able to paint a very accurate description. Tell her about the color and the discharge and suggest she may not have noticed it but she should see her doctor. Even show her the color and the discharge if she is still there. If this doesn't work, she's really screwed up. You may have to really go that extra step and call child protection to check on the health of the baby. They will do it anonomously but of course she will guess it was you. But what is more important? Your relationship with an insecure idiot or the welfare of this baby? Personally I couldn't handle being friends with someone like that. Anyway when you decide to tell her try it this way. It has worked for me every time.