Crying to sleep - Love & Relationship Forums

McGilles · #1 (**permalink**) 12-18-2005, 10:00 AM

Are you letting your baby cry it out? I can't and I wanted to see what others think about this topic. For me ignoring a crying baby is a horrible vision. How must it feel like if the person you love most walks by and ignores your crying because you do not have any other of communicating your needs. After 6 months with my baby I am able to tell from the sound of crying what it needs (food, sleep, or it has pain, and so on).

How do you feel about this?

McGilles

Jamie · #2 (**permalink**) 12-18-2005, 09:49 PM

There is an interesting article about this topic available at http://www.news.harvard.edu/gazette/...enNeedTou.html.

Quote:

Instead of letting infants cry, American parents should keep their babies close, console them when they cry, and bring them to bed with them, where they'll feel safe,

I can't agree more with that.

Jamie

Puck · #3 (**permalink**) 12-18-2005, 11:03 PM

I am so glad this topic came up for discussion! I knew with my whole heart letting my baby cry it out wasn't right but everyone around me kept saying I had to do it! I will do some more research now that I have read the article listed here. Thank you for posting it, Jamie.

Puck

Pepples · #4 (**permalink**) 12-19-2005, 10:10 PM

Here is an interesting articles from the Dr. Sears website.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070700.asp

Quote:

If your current daytime or nighttime routine is not working for you, think about what changes you can make in yourself and your lifestyle that will make it easier for you to meet your baby's needs. This is a better approach than immediately trying to change your baby. After all, you can control your own reactions to a situation. You can't control how your baby reacts. Use discernment about advice that promises a sleep-through-the-night more convenient baby, as these programs involve the risk of creating a distance between you and your baby and undermining the mutual trust between parent and child. On the surface, baby training sounds so liberating, but it's a short-term gain for a long-term loss. You lose the opportunity to know and become an expert in your baby. Baby loses the opportunity to build trust in his caregiving environment. You cease to value your own biological cues and judgment and follow the advice of someone who has no biological attachment, nor investment, in your infant.

Read the whole article. Very helpful in my opinion. I will never let my baby cry it out. If he is crying that hard there is something he is trying to tell me.

Pepples

Siedler · #5 (**permalink**) 12-26-2005, 08:31 PM

I know that my parents let me cry it out all the time. Sometimes I wonder how we all survived those 60's/70's as babies?

Siedler

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