...how do I go about it.? My husband is suggesting we have sex every day (he makes it sound like a chore) . My girl friend suggested I load up on vitamins but could not say which ones. A colleague of mine is suggesting constant fasting and prayers. They are confusing me but I really want to have kids, 'cos it would make me feel like a complete woman. All advice are welcome, BOTH PROFESSIONAL AND NON PROFESSIONAL.I've had those lectures about chances diminishing with age. I want real positive answers please.I forgot to mention that I am a little over weight. Does this constitute any problems?.

you can go see a fertility doctor, generally they can help you predict when you will be most fertile and give you good the proper numbers you'll be looking for. you might also consider invitro fertilization if it remains difficult for you to get pregnant.since you're in your 40s, there's a higher chance that your child will have genetic problems, such as down's syndrome, but that's easily helped with proper care. once you are pregnant, you have to start taking hormones to help with child development in the womb as well. it is very important that you see a doctor for this.

Your husband is right and so also are your friends. If you really want it, there's no miracle to it. You need to get down to the basics (you know what I'm talking about) and stop seeing it as a chore.

Don't stress. Just know that if it is meant to be it will happen. I personally think there are people who were put on this earth to be mothers through adoption. I think these women are amazing and are just as much a woman and any other woman. But enough of being all mushy... Here are a few things I have heard work but who really know... Drinking orange juice... use the ovulation stick to time it right... after sex stay laying down with your hips elevated, my grandma told me to do handstands! , but really don't stress. Easier said then done... I know. It took me over a year to get pregnant. I hope everything works out for you. Good Luck!

Firstly, I would be getting onto a good website like babycenter.com or my monthly cycles. Track your period and work out when you are fertile by using one of their ovulation calulators and looking out for the signs your body gives you.Start taking folate or another supplement for pre-pregnancy.Don't bother with the sex everday, that is a bad idea because it reduces the quality of your husbands sperm anyway.I use in conjunction with the calendars a saliva tester that tells you when you are fertile - some people find these handy, others don't. Keep fit and healthy and try (both of you) to limit alcohol.Try not to stress over it - I know it's easier said than done, but stress won't help anything. And good luck.

Vitamins are a good idea, as well as a balanced diet. Folic Acid--at least 400 micrograms a day. It won't hurt to take prenatal vitamins now while you're TTC. But, please clear everything with your primary care physician or OB-GYN first to make sure you are in good health; and that any supplements won't cause adverse side-effects. Usually, a patient in their mid to late thirties and forties are treated more aggressively in the sense that the doctor may agree to run tests without suggesting that the patient wait a full year to try to get PG on their own. Time is of the essence It's really up to you--the patient--to make the decision on the course of your treatment plan. If you haven't already seen/consulted with your OB, do it a.s.a.p. This is the time to get updated on Tetanus shot and get a complete health history/profile....it's also for the doc to see if your menstrual cycle is in check. As we women age, our periods may elude us, or just go out of whack, which therefore leaves us guessing when we ovulate.Of course, lots of prayers and positive thoughts are very good suggestions. I'm living proof I didn't have my first child until I was 29. It took eleven months when he was finally conceived. That was the point when I completely trusted God and stopped trying so hard with following all the "tips and advice" floating around. My OB gave me a year to try on our own, but prior to that, on the third month of TTC, she performed a Hysterosalpinogram just to make sure the tubes are clear and there are no other blockage, etc. I wish you well in your quest to be a mom. I can relate to your desire for motherhood as a means to become a complete woman. May God bless you and your husband. I'm sure he is having the most fun with the sex everyday, lol. Tell him to wait a day or two prior to your ovulation period before you have sex. That way, there is a greater concentration of sperm to make the journey upstream And yes, elevate your buttocks/hips with pillows and don't get up for at least 30 mins. afterwards. Gotta help the li'l swimmers!