I have a boyfriend, Steph, and I love him so much, the only problem is he's everything I want but nothing that I need. If that makes any sense to you...I have a lot to tell, him and everyone else, but when I told my bestfriend most of it, she freaked out and went all weird, and she wasn't herself, I was completly afraid to lose her (I've gone through about 8/9 bestfriends in about 4 years). I love my boyfriend so much and I want to tell him so bad, I need to tell him if this is going to work out, but I'm afraid of what his reaction would be. If it ends up being like my bestfriend's was I may not have a boyfriend anymore.

You should tell your boyfriend how you currently feel. If you believe that the relationship both of you are into are in jeopardy, you will need to tell him because both of you will need to revitalize this relationship together, in my opinion. Hopefully you'll have the strength to tell him how you feel because a relationship requres more than one person. Tell him what you feel, he'll help you. You'll probably feel better than you've told him and maybe he has something good to say on his mind. Good luck, I hope that everything works out for you.

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True...true...thanks for the advice! now if I can only find a time when he's not actually busy...lol

Call him. I think the longer you wait, the problem might only worsen. Why do I think that? Simple. In my opinion, the longer you wait, you may increase your doubts about the relationship, however...if you tell your boyfriend about it, he might help you through it and hopefully, decrease your doubts tremendously. I suggest you call him as soon as you can. Good luck, Christine.

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well I totaly agree with john on this one because whenever you have feelings about something/someone it's best to voice it as soon as possible so other ppl know and not only could the problem worsen if you wait you could risk him finding that out by himself or through someone else which would make things a lot worse, so if you haven't talked about it with him yet then asap would be the best time

yea...thing is in the summer he's like NEVER there. He was gone all last week and the week before and now he's gone till Monday and then I'm busy next week, unless he's there at night and then after that I'm there for four days and I leave again for two weeks. Usually I have so much time to spare, I still do, but he doesn't.

Hm, this is hard then. I think the best you can do is take your mind and thoughts off of his. Try doing something else until he gets back and tell him all about it. If he asks you why you didn't tell him earlier, simply tell him that he was busy while you did want to tell him.

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well if contacting is the problem then you could do it by e-mail, but thats one of those last case scenarios but atleast this way you know he knows but if you do do it by e-mail make sure you include the fact that you wanted to do it in person it wasn't an option because of such and such and hopefully he'll understand

Yes, that's correct. If you do go the online route, and decide to tell him online simply because you can't wait anymore, make it thorough. Make it specific and informative, try to type something that won't leave him with questions. Although, I still believe that it's better to do this in person because well, it's physical contact and it just still feels correct.

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that makes sense but his e-mails are like messed. I don't kow it seems like every way I try and contact him doesn't work. Even in person, he'll sort of avoid the subject or he won't be serious or he'll just not really listen...It's sort of sad, it's sort of like teaching a puppy in a way...