My fiance (we are getting married in two weeks) told me the other night that he is not as attracted to me since I gained weight (about 80 pounds) in the last 5 years of our relationship. He told me he still loves me and knows that if I lose some weight he will be more attracted to me and he feels that our relationship will be better because I will be more confident in myself. He says that he will stay with me even if I don't lose any weight because he loves me, he just wanted to tell me that before we get married in two weeks. What are your feelings on this?
I'm 23 and he's 25. We were making love at least every other day trying for a baby.

Him saying that he isnt attracted to you as much just because you gained weight is kinda mean if you ask me. I mean you dont really want to tell that to your fiance. But him saying that he will stay with you is kinda nice

why does he care how you look?!as long as your nice and good on the inside, it doesn't matter what you look like!

sounds like he's being the honest men women are always looking for. granted this was probably a bad time to bring it up i would tell him he needs to lose some too. maybe you guys could get a gym membership and work out together. and both be happy

Well, if he's willing to tell you that, imagine when you're 9 months pregnant and you want him to pick you up some wings from Hooters...

Would you feel so very confident then??

I agree with what everyone else is saying. First of all thats not a nice thing to say. Second why is he bringing it up two weeks before getting married. You need to marry someone who is not afraid to commit and someone who will just flat out love you no matter what. Try to find a calm spot and think to yourself how you feel about what he said. If you want to get married to him that is up to you but as long as you arent denying how you feel about things. I wish you the best.

It Think That He's Just Attracted To Your Physical Features Than What Really Needs To Matter-your Personality:that's Not Love(don't Get Married To Him)

He's got cold feet and is leaving it up to you to be the one to end it. Honesty is the best policy, but only when done in a tactful way, plus, those sort of issues should have been out in the air a long time ago if you're about to get married.

Physical attraction is a very large part of a relationship. Why did you gain 80 lbs? That is a lot of weight to put on. Men and women both should work hard at keeping themselves attractive to their significant other so it keeps that "spark" in the relationship. Also, he is right, having a better look will give you more confidence which is wonderful for the relationship.

I think you should try to lose some weight. Noone wants to marry a fat ass. People usually are more attracted to people who take care of themselves.
It seems like you have a good man.....try to lose a little for him to show you care..