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night dandycan :wink:

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dandycan personally if it was me and i knew the relationship was over between my wife, after 25 years I would have the decency to explain things to my wife. You say its rocky but you have been with her for 25 years its a long time been with someone, have you talked to your wife to explain your feelings and her to explain hers? If the relationship is dead then i think it would be better to end it before you start seeing other people, I know you say you have not been with anyone else in the marriage, but will she believe you. I just think the decent and honest thing is to end the marriage, if it is dead and you can't fix things

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bring back the ladies,lee is too tough for me. i know you're right i just haven't the b***s to doi it right now. i'm an emotional wreck at present, i need some space. i thought this was just a comp. site ,i was taken unawares when i got immediate replies to my query. thanks to you all, i think a lot of yiou care. bye for dandycan

i think.....go ahead with it, some of you may disagree, but ,if your marriage is as bad as that, i think the only reason you are staying around is because its hard to leave when youve been with someone so long and have had a life together and you need a good excuse. i have stayed in a relationship when it was long dead and it caused me nothing but grief but i still stuck it out...what for, whats the point, i dunno but you just do it.
lee not being funny mate but youve only had one long term relationship, havent any kids and never been married, you sound bitter because youve been crapped on and rightly so, but lifes a bitch you gotta make the most of it and if dandycan is as unhappy as he sounds then i bet his wife is too and you never know she could be quite relieved if he went!!!

nita i never said not to go i just said to tell his wife first, after 25 years she has got the right to some respect. I think to go off with someone else when you are still with someone is morally wrong. Thats my opinion and i know you will disagree but i could never do it.

dandycan you say you need space right now, is going into another relationship going to help you?? I think it would make things worse. Just explain to your wife you need space to think things through, she might be thinking along the same lines, you never know unless you communicate with each other.

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i know exactly what you said lee, and im quite peeved that you said you KNOW i will disagree with you, im not getting into an arguement but that was uncalled for, YOU think he should talk it out with his wife, im going on the experience that its not that damn easy to talk even if youve been with someone that amount of time, i wasnt obviously with someone 25 years but for the time i was with ***** i couldnt talk to him and just ended kicking him out which led to violence!! yes it would be nice to be able to sit down and have a cosy chat but it isnt always viable. he could not only lose his family but everything so why not try and make something of his life first before he goes whether it works or not, thats all i was saying.

ahem! really folks i just made an innocent inquiry. i appreciate your opinions but i feel you've taken the gloves off and it could get ugly.i'm going to make up my own mind and maybe i'll let you know the outcome ok. thanks again

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no prob, me and lee get on very well and disagree on a lot of things and we wont fall out over this :lol: