Ok my childs father is no longer in the picture and my current fience (don't ask) is in the army. I have family support for my birth but my fience nor the childs father will be attending. I wanted to go natural because I know its better for the baby, but I don't want everyone looking down on me because there wont be a man present at my birth. I'm also a little aprehensive about everyone lookin at me like I'm crazy. My mom is trying to support me in the best way possible but she's not sure about the details and she keeps telling me that I better just do what the doctor says, but I feel like its my birth and I should be able to make all the choices. I want to be well alert when my baby arrives... So to get to the point... How could I do a more natural birth and still have all the support?

It's your birth. Go into the hospital with mindset that your going to have your baby without drugs. You may or may not change your mind once you get into active labor. No one is going to look down on you for not having a man present. In this day and age a lot of mothers don't have fathers for their children...sad but true. You do have a father he's just in the army. I'm sure if he could be there he would in a heartbeat. Just remember....it's your labor, your child, you call the shots. Congrats and Good luck!

It is your baby and your birth experience. You may want to research having a birth advocate or doula there for you. They can make the experience more relaxed and will work with the hospital staff to make sure your wishes are heeded as best as possible. We all have ideas of how we would like things to be but in the real world sometimes things are beyond our control, i.e. emegency c-section. So be prepared for whatever might happen but the important thing to remember is the final outcome will be that beautiful baby in your arms.































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Just go for it! Just ignore what others tell you. You say that you don't want everyone looking at you like you're crazy? When you're on that hospital bed pushing and pushing, you're not going to care who is looking. You're just gonna be concentrating on getting the baby out. Good luck!

My second child's father was never in the picture. He's not even listed on the birth certificate. The only person present at the birth was my mother. I had all my children naturally. NO meds. I have four children in all. I wouldn't change the fact that I delivered med free at all. It was painful, but it was a pain that I could manage. I just breathed and focused on the outcome. Not everyone is able to handle pain the same. Some need a little med help. I think that you need to do what you want. If you want to try to go natural do it. Sign up for a birthing class and have your mom attend with you. That way you will be able to do this together and you will both learn together. Knowing what to expect makes it so much easier and has actually been shown to increase your chance of a med-free labor. If you get into the labor room and decide you can't do it, you can always ask for an epidural. You will still be completly alert with an epidural. All it does is numb you from the stomache down. It does not affect you mentally at all. And it does not harm the baby. But I do firmly believe in natural births. NO one will look at you like your crazy if you choose this. The nurses and the doctors will comend you. If you have any questions or want to talk, you can e-mail me! I'll help you all I can!! God Bless you.

Hi ! First of all I would like to say congrats! Natural birth is the best thing because of the fact that you are actually feeling what is going on girl its not as hard as it seems but once its done its over and the joy you feel once your blessing that the lord has given you is in your hands it was all worth the wait. But if you decide to take the epidural, there is nothing wrong with that all that matters is for your little angel to be brought safely into this world. It does not matter that your man will not be in the room with you because YOU will be the lucky one filled with all the joy in the world. Luckily I was blessed to have my sister and my Husband in the room to support me, I don't know how your delivery will be but ask the Doctor/nurses to place a mirror in front of you so you may see everything that happens because I did and that was amazing. GOOD LUCK , MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR LITTLE ONE

I had all four of mine natural. I highly recommend the Bradley method. Find the book, Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way. It reallly works. It is also a lot safer and they only have a 5% C-sec rate.

Girlfriend I am all for going for the natural birth...but once you feel those pains....oooo! Epidural is great! Wonderful! It does not knock you out all it does is numb you so you do not feel pain and trust me lots and lots of pain comes lol. I was totally alert when the baby came out. Only thing is you can not get out of bed for a few hours after birth and they give you a pee bag (cath). We are lucky to have drugs avalible...might as well use them especially when they are safe. Having all that pain sometimes makes people "miserable" about their birthing experiance when it should be happy.