After another hellish nite out im going toask ur opinions on this. Am i unusually jealous to care that my man is always eying up other women? He says hes watching everyone, but i just notice the girls. But its only with the girls he watches them walking the length of the floor and only the pretty ones. He says men do it its normal and im nuts. The way he explained it was that if i am wearing a lovely dress do i still watch the other girls dresses and does it mean that i want that dress. Im not sure and id value some opinions male and female please. Is it normal and im overreacting and does every1s man do it?

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LIZZIE XXXXX

my ex used to do it and he used to p**s me right off, theres looking and theres staring, he used to stare, an odd glance is fine thats all, im very jealous too, dont know why i was jealous with him coz hes a big fat minger...well he is now lmao ;-) :lol:

anyway so long as he doesnt touch thats all that matters :grin:

Awww Lizzie, it's not you. It's bang out of order if it's so noticeable to you and making you feel this way.

Don't get me wrong, most men I know would be lying if they said they didn't look sideways at an attractive girl, as would most women I'd say, if they said they never looked at another man, we all do it, but I think it's an issue if it's blatantly obvious to you what he's doing.

I've been out with my OH and 'caught' him and his mates giving each other a nudge or wink at some probably 18-21 year old who wouldn't look twice at any of them 'cause they're old enough to be her Dad - haha..

I personally feel if you can laugh it off then great but if it's making you feel uncomfortable then get him to pack it in, else, start eyeing all the blokes up in the pub right in front of him, see how he likes it !

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Polly's Ebay

Well thats wat he says hes not cheating or nothing, but im afraid he might. Again my insecurities but im not very confident and hes cheated on every girl hes been with maybe 30 tyms on the last one, his excuse being he was young and had to sow his seed plus he didnt love her. Like i said i am jealous and insecure and it always causes rows wen were out but i just dont no how to deal with it. Thats y i want opinions cos if im being irrational then maybe i need a shrink or something

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LIZZIE XXXXX

Oh, forgot to mention, my ex used to do this sort of thing too, it used to really wind me up, we'd end up having big rows over it, but I was only about 21 at the time. Now I look back he only used to do it to try and make me insecure too as he was an ugly barsteward and made his insecurities feel better by trying to get me to admit somehow I was jealous!!! It's just a mean thing to do to someone !

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That wat i think polly. The thing is im really questioning myself but then i do see that he watches every1, we all do its just the girls he watches differently. He did it last nite and wen i pulled him he said he did it to see my reaction which i feel was nasty. Then of course my sister whos never had a fella in her life told me its normal all men do it her mates man groped a dancers bum in front of her so i should be thankful he just looks. I used to eye fellas nonstop wen i was with my first hubby cos i didnt love him but now i dont even notice men which is maybe silly or sad one or the other

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LIZZIE XXXXX

Lizzie, at the time my ex was like this, I was insecure. I had my parents getting divorced, nowhere to live and so much stress to deal with it was untrue, especially for a young girl. He was my only bit of stability, or so I thought. Anyway, to cut a long story short, I went for counselling and got everything out of my system that I couldn't talk to anyone else about. Now I'm such a positive person I'd NEVER let anyone treat me this way !

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Polly's Ebay

Thanks polly i think im going to find a counsillor or therapist and try and do a self esteem course or something, then maybe i wont care so much

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LIZZIE XXXXX

I always thought counselling was for people having breakdowns and stuff, but it was amazing, just a chat with someone, once a week and it got everything out of my system. You can't talk to people you know about certain stuff and sometimes they can't help you or give you answers you need to hear.

The counselling really helped me to realise that I was a good, worthy person and didn't deserve to be treated in any other way but the best I'd expect. It gave me, over time, all my confidence back and I went on to meet a fantastic partner, realise my potential at work, achieve goals and climb the ladder.

Go for it, you definatley won't regret it. It will help you gain all your confidence back....

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Polly's Ebay

i do think all men do this...it seems to be natural to them to constantly check out whos around but if its is bothering you then he is doing it far too obviously and he should be paying more attention to you when you are together!!! try looking at blokes and see how he feels or comment on some fellas outfit and how it suits him and then tell him if he doesnt like it that thats how you feel! ;-)