Thought that I would start a debate on here...

I found out that a good friend at work has been having an affair! I had no idea and was shocked to say the least as I thought that all was ok for her at home.

I don't feel it is my position to judge and to be honest, no-one knows what goes on behind closed doors. They have been married for 10 years but she has been having an affair for 4!

Would any of you ever consider it if things weren't right at home?

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nope :grin:

i think id try and get through the bad patch and if i couldnt do that then id split, no point in staying with someone if youre not happy.

all i hear off my mates is moaning, hes this, hes that, he never does such and such :roll: well hello do something about it then!!

having an affair with a married man with me being single is a different matter ;-)

i do not understand how people can do this, i could never sleep with two people especially with one who i am supposed to love. i think that people should try and work through a bad patch and if it is really not getting better then they should finish the relationship. this would then leave them to move on to a new person if they want but it will not be done behind some ones back. what makes me laugh with people who have affairs and cheat is they don't mind doing it but when it happens to them they go mad and seem to forget they're not all innocent.

I totally agree! They play the role of the victim and want all the sympathy!

I would NEVER consider having an affair, even when i have been unhappy in a relationship i have not been tempted to stray.

I have been cheated on previously and i know the damage and the hurt it can cause and would never do that to another person.

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No I wouldn't not even if things got really bad. I saw my mum have countless affairs she still to this day don't know what harm she did to the family. It would have been better for all if they had split up

Well I did have an affair, nothing happened sexually until after I sat my husband down and explained how I felt and that I had fallen in love with someone else.

Luckly we didnt have a child and we split everything 50/50 and was all very nice IN THE END, H e went off and did all the things I never wanted to do and I moved in with mark and we had our daughter.

Im not saying an affair is a good thing but it worked out good for me and my ex, I still feel guilty about how I went about certain things and what a bitch I was back then but whats done is done.

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No, I think I can honestly say that I wouldn't. I just think it's mean. I'd sooner try and give things a go or sit down and talk through the problems before it even got to the 'affair' stage.

My Mum had an affair on my Dad and it was absolutley devastating for the whole family then my ex of five years had one on me and it's just cruel to put people through it.

God, reading this I'd almost go as far as saying I'm strongly against it. :shock:

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Polly's Ebay

I'm with you paula, i have such strong morals that i find it inexcusable, when its happened to you its such a hurtful time!

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I wouldnt have an affair i think you should try and sort your problems out but if you cant them you should end the relationship and then you can move on if you wanted to.

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Claire's ebay

I wouldn't have an affair - I know what it's like on the receiving end. I'm in the middle of a divorce I didn't want whilst he's sleeping with my best friend!