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A question for ya Fg does mother goose get time off for good behavior from the kitchem sink???

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My mother was a mother if you know what I mean.

I say give your children at least the first 5 years of you at home (as the saying goes "give me a boy until hes 7 and ill give you a man for life").

I dont think there is anything wrong with working part time (it sets a good example) but if you work 40 hours unless your super women/man, you cant give them 100%.

I have a relative that talks sorry moans (what about me, me me) when you decide to have kids there is very little me, BUT children should know that its not all about THEM, so I think a balance is needed.

My mum went to work full time when i was 12. It made me independant I used to come home to an empty house after school, but it didnt bother me at all, i used to peel the potatoes, even do some house work, I used to take myself to the dental hosp at 13/14 on the bus, Id like to see some kids do that today, cant move without 4 wheels.

I agree with you FG, i remember the thatcher days, she started it but it is up to individuals to make the right choice thinking about everybody.

Well thats my waffling done, MY OPINION.

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well - you lot have all just made me out to be a mother! let me tell you I'm a MUM! and I've always work full time out of necessity not choice.

Laura goes to a childminder and Alastair goes to an after-school club - are you telling me I'm less of a mother than my sister-in-law who stays at home?

my children come first 100% of the time I have them and I only don't have them Sunday to Wednesday because I don't have a choice! I have spent time finding the right childcare for them and I know that they are settled and happy whilst I am working to pay the mortgage. and provide the luxuries like shoes and food as well as extras like jujitsu and swimming lessons and Laura will get the same chances as her brother even if I am only a part-time mother.

are you all saying that I shouldn't have had my beautiful children?

I work extra time when I don't have them so that I can take time out for hospital appointments eye tests etc -

I have never not been there for mu children & don't intend to start not being there now!

some people have to work

thats why i said in my post about the fact that some MUMS have to work, the difference i was talking about was the women who want to further their career rather than pay attention to their children! if a child gets 100% of your attention when you are there as lors said thats far better than a mother who is home full time and never pays any attention to their kids! im sure we all have known someone like that

joanne i never said or agreed with what the others were saying so no i dont think your less of a mum for having to work you do what you have to for your children anyway i dont think people should judge who is being a mum and who is being a mother!

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you're despicable!!!

noone is judging anyone else on here daffy we are all just giving a personal opinion of what we feel

My little one used to go to a childminder even when I wasnt working one morning a week. I havent got a problem with CM. I am even thinking of getting a proper job and using a CM three days a week now they are older.

Going back to a relative, shes tells me she NEEDS to work (although her husband says she can stop working) fine, if she needs the money but then they are always off having meals out, takeaways, (shes too tired to cook) buying unnessary furniture, new curtains, I think there is a need/want issue there.

I choose to work 10 per week (i couldnt do my job more hours than that I would crack) and we are skint but we get by. Ive always said I couldnt hold down a day job because my kids are always forgetting things, when i plan anything they are ill, when I did work in the day I used get a lot of dirty looks when I had to go home when my baby was ill. Im not having a go at anyone like I said its my opinion. I know a lot of stay at home mums who ignore there kids, they would be better off with a CM.

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probably over-reacted with my post earlier - sorry

I hate it when I've not got my kids and was feeling a bit sensitive tonight

I'm fairly lucky in that I get an extra 5 days 'parental leave' every calendar year to take when children are ill.

but I would take unpaid leave or use my holidays if need be. Ex gets that too so we still share the care of the kids

sorry Rae wasnt saying anyone on here was judging anyone else on here just giving my opinion

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you're despicable!!!