This isn't my problem, since my parents have been divorced for years, but it is a common problem. Post your advice for it for visitors to see.

My parents have been fighting for a very long time. Every day, they argue, and I am really getting scared. I mean…When I was younger, I remember them taking me to Central Park and we’d just hang out together. We’d all be very happy. But now they always fight. Is it my fault? Did I do something wrong? I heard them mention divorce and that really scares me. I don’t want to lose my Mom or Dad, but they fight so much. Is there anything I can do to prevent it? Please…I really need someone’s help right now. Thanks.

Don't blame it on yourself. I know, it's natural for a child to lose some self confidence when his own parents lose a lot of connection, but it is not your fault. It is their own insecurity. I'm really sorry to hear that. My parents have been separated ever since I was 3. It's hard. Now, I have to live with my stepdad who constantly argues with my mom. How do I deal with it? Well, I've gotten used to it. I hate him, so it doesn't matter. All that matters is that I do all I can for the ones I truly love. I'm trying to make my mom proud by being a hard worker and an achiever, what she has always wanted. Arguments will lower self esteem. The best thing you can do right now is let your parents know you care about them by trying to make them happy. If they can't be happy together, just let them be happy individually. Let them know that you still care about them. Take them out to dinner, make them dinner, or something like that. If they see how much you care about them, they might be reminded about what great of a family they have.

Definatly dont blame yourself, this happends in my house hold all the time.

I lived with this situation for years. Finally they got a divorce. It actually worked out better although I didnt think it would at the time. But every situation is different. Dont ever blame yourself though.

Thats a nice piece, but the problem is that you hate him. Lol. This differs when the child loves both his/her parents and this happens. Its only natural to blame yourself. Because my cousin, as a kid, was told my his mom when she was sobbing at night "If only you werent here, things would be better for mommy..right?" . It seriously sucks. Family problems shouldnt have to be dealt with by us kids but its put on us because we are family. The only thing you should do is show them how you care about them being together and that when you grow up make sure you dont make a mistake like that.

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Wait, what? Who said what? I'm kind of confused...

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Right there john. "How do i deal with it? Well, I've gotten used to it. I hate him, so it doesn't matter."

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i think there's nothing in your power what could fix this..
you can try to talk with them but probably won't work..
if somethings wrong anywhere it will never be as it was at the start

the best solutions is always divorce, for everyone..

Sadly enough ill have to say acheron is right. Married couples that argue and have problems are the ones that dated before and had problems in the first place. They somehow must have had a problem during the time before they were marreid but believed they loved each other so much so they became married. So the problem is always going to be there. Sucks

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Its not your fault..

we feel terrible on this situations and start thinking that its our fault..its not...

Talk to your fathers and try see really whats happen.if its really a divorce situation..maybe its better than fith all day.my fathers get divorced but they stop fighting..that was good think..but was terrible for me that was a young child.

life is not perfect.your fathers are not too.