recently my mom and i have been argueing back and forth.
she called me a bitch last night.
&& she has been saying.. if all my kids were like you i wouldve run away by now.
and it kind of hurts me.
i kind of think it's intentional.

i cant hang out with anyone.
like i hardly ever.
and when i want to.. she says no.
ALL THE TIME.

this weekend i was invited to play paintball with paul.
and i really want to.
but even if i ask her.. it will be a no.

reasons:
he is a boy.
he is 20.
he has a child.
&& she thinks he is dumb cause of who he had the child with.
cause she hates my friend allie.


what should i do?!?

tell her that you are old enough to make your own choices now (18+)
and if she still doesn't want you to do it, well, it's up to you..
you are the adult now and have control over your own life
she really can't interfere that much

Honey. Move out/away. It's time to quit being the child no one wants you to be.

I cant move out. I have to get my finances in line before I move. So that's out of the question right now.

I just don't know what to do.

Last night she let my dad know that I take after him. He considered it an insult. Aren't family members supposed to support each other.

Its rediculous. I'm fed up.

I'm 19 and I live at home too. I also have to follow the rules my mom sets. But I have to say, if you want to keep living at home and not pay any rent then following their rules is all you can do right now.

"Not pay rent"... That's a good one. You're just not paying rent in money. You're paying it out of the pocket of your soul- you give up your pride, your independance, your individuality and your freedom. Just remember that every time you're upset with their rules- this is what rent costs. Nothing's free. Especially family.

You're definitely old enough to move out and live on your own. You'll be able to gain your independence which many people your age would desire so much for. At first, the thought of independence may sound extremely wonderful but it could be rather petulant when you're not able to earn much money to survive on your own. I believe that there are some people out there that yearns for independence but they're not willing to reach for it simply because they're not ready for it and that they still need guidance. People need to break away and figure situations and live on their own to learn that.

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You are over the age of 18 so by the court system you are considered an adult and responsible for yourself. I'm not saying to go against your mom but you and her should compromise on something like about when you stay out late and that but when it comes to liking someone or dating them that is your choice and not anyone else.

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e adams

im no expert but i say move out

I agree with the others and I would say to move out.



If you look at the "renter" side of this opinion above, you also have to look at the "landlord" side also. You are costing your parents money by staying in the house. You use their electricity, heat/AC, eat their food, and sleep in house they paid for.

I would have to know more about the situation in order to give detailed, specific advice, but I do know that there are 2 sides to every story. Try to sit and talk with your parents. Be honest, but not disrespectful. Who knows if it will work, but you may just get to know your parents in a new way. They may also trust you in a new way.

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