How do you guys deal with having multiple families to go visit during the holidays. My parents are divorced and both remarried for over 20 years each now. Every holiday it is very hard to choose who to go see. And toss in my wife's parents are also both divorced and remarried, we have 4 groups trying to get our time. Very hard.

That does seem troubling and difficult. However, I think that it might be ideal if you were to keep a specific schedule and go to one the first year, another one the second year, another one the third year, and a fourth one the next. I don't see any alternative to this that's as good as the idea I've stated.

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that is exactly what we try to do, but it always seems to not work out exactly equally and then people are mad, ,lol

Well, there really isn't anything else you could possibly do to make it anymore fair than it currently is. Out of curiosity, which one are you planning to go to on Thanksgiving? Perhaps an idea might be inviting all of them to your house and have a holiday party there.

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especially with our new baby we have been saying that ourselves also. it would be great and much easier to just have everyone come to us, but I dont see it happening..............

Well, try suggesting it and see if they're willing to comply. Anyway, which family makes the better food? Haha, I'm joking.

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You can't really please them all at once so stick with what you're doing at this moment. However, it does seem like a good idea to just have it at your house and invite all of them over. Anyway, sounds good to me. Actually, there might be a problem. Where exactly will your relatives go?

who know, lol. i dont think i could have everyone together in the same house. they might kill each other lol

Well, I think you should ask if they would want to do it. Perhaps they might enjoy it and it'll probably be a new tradition? You mentioned that you have a new baby--congratulations by the way, therefore it'll suit your family better.

Have a quiet dinner at home with just the family. If anyone complains, tell them exactly what you've said here. That you couldn't choose and you didn't trust them to get along all at your place. With the threat of not seeing the baby, they might suck it up and be cheerful for one evening of the year. You could try this over Thanksgiving and by Christmas hopefully they've swallowed some of pride or bitterness or whatever that keeps them from getting along.