I don't know if my parents are going to get a divorce or not but they're always arguing with each other and I just can't stand it. I am afraid that if they do get a divorce, it might be my fault. I know a lot of times people say that but it might be true for my family. I always ask for things from my mom and she lets me but my dad doesn't so they fight over it. What can I do now?

First of all don't blame yourself. What your parents need to do is to sit down and talk with each other instead of arguing. Like agree that you can have or do this but not that. Divorces are based of that the parents cant make it together not because of there kids. I mean look at my family. My step family and i use to fight all the time really bad and i thought him and my mom were going to get a divorce but November 12 will make 16yrs they have been together.

__________________
e adams

while divorce has become almost the norm, it does not change the fact that it hurts a ton. My parents are divorced and both remarried. I was really young when it happened so it was not as hard as it might have been when I was older and understood more.
In the end (and it takes a while) the pain and hurt fade and then you STILL have 2 parents who will love you just as much. You just have to get through the initial hard time with as little lasting damage as you can avoid.

It might make them happier in the long run to get a divorce. As for you thinking you are playing your parents off each other- Did you ask your dad first when he said no? This is going to sound bad, but if that is the case then what you are doing is putting them against eash other. But they would be fighting anyway. I don't know exactly what they are fighting about, but it sounds to me like there is a communication problem. And for me, to keep myself from spending money I am always asking myself the question "Do I really need this?"

Try to keep the lines of communication open in your family. If you ask your dad for something, and he says no, then the answer is no. Don't go out and ask your mother instead. That tends to make both of your parents feel bad.