What type of parent are you? What style do you feel you were brought up with? Authoritarian- controlling, do as I say & when I say, no questions, big during the baby boomers era, extremely strict, not much communication.Permissive- I didnt get anything as a child, so I will give my child whatever they want, act more of a friend than a parent, many of the baby boomers used this on their kids.Authoritative- strict, but willing to negotiate, gave reasons for rules/consequences, more communacative, set high but realistic standards.Neglectful- self explanatory; ignored the child, child basically has to bring themselves up, parents were always too buisy with other things.Then, do you feel that how you bring your child up can affect most if not all of their lives and how they end up as adults?

If it is possible, I am a mixture of permissive and authoritative. I don't sweat the small stuff, but I also don't let my daughter get away with murder. I must be doing something right, she is two, very bright, cheerful, friendly and already has nice manners. I was brought up kind of being ignored and sort of left to do things on my own a lot.

Well, I was definitely parented by Authoritative parents... I don't have any kids yet, but I would think when I do have kids, I will be somewhere between Permissive and Authoritative... I WILL NOT be more of a friend than a parent, I don't think it is a parent's place to be a friend first, it is their JOB to be a parent first... But I won't be INCREDIBLY strict... There are certain things I won't allow my kids to do, but there are things I will be looser about, because you can't make ALL of your children's decisions... They have to learn some things on their own... Even if you TELL them the way things go, sometimes they will do it and learn from their OWN experiences... But there are things I won't tolerate... I will set high but realistic standards, have reasons for the rules I have, be willing to negotiate... I guess I would just be Authoritative... Not really Permissive. I DO think that how you bring your child up has an effect on the rest of the child's life... If you OVER parent, and you drive your kids crazy and are overbearing and overcontrolling, your children may not want to put THEIR kids through the same thing, and in turn they are extremely loose with their children and don't set boundaries because they don't want their kids to go through what they went through... But if parents are ignorant and uninvolved and the child feels unloved, they may be EXTREMELY strict with their children, because they know what happens when you have too much freedom, and they know the negative consequences of what could happen, and they don't want their kids to go through the same thing... So parenting definitely is something that needs to be dealt with cautiously... There needs to be a happy medium between Neglectful and Authoritarian... Which is probably Authoritative... I would think that is the best parenting style... Hope this helps!

I was raised to be seen and not heard.I have raised my son to be compassionate, humble, respectful of himself and others, goal oriented, accepting, forgiving, loving and I have taught him to use his own mind and not the mind of others when he makes decisions. I have taught him to pray.I was never taught any of these things even though I somehow was a compassionate person. I wanted to make sure that my son has all the advantages he needs to be a wonderful young man and every day I look at him I see all those qualities and more in him.It makes me proud!While how you are raised can affect you as an adult it should never keep you from wanting to be what you want to be as an adult. To many people use how they were raised as an excuse to lead a less than perfect life for them self. When in reality life is what you make it. If you hide behind the past then you are keeping yourself from being the person you should be. I was not raised with support. I was not raised with hugging and open love in my family. But I knew when I was able to do it on my own that things would be different and I have made sure they were.