i know this isnt what you want to hear but, he'll learn from his own mistakes. I mean you are who you are now because you made mistakes. let him live and learn. if it gets to the extremes to where his life is being endangered than thats when you should take some action. dont scold him cause that will only make matters worse. talk to him like an adult and and give him advice. dont make it sound like your telling him what to do cause you know he'll just do the opposite.

increase your family activities together...fun stuff, so that he feels it's a positive environment to spend time with family. it's normal developmental progression for kids to start breaking away from their parents at this age. however, that doesn't mean they need to move in a direction that can get them in trouble. you need to state the family rules, and what the consequences are for breaking them. say what you mean and mean what you say. catch him in the act of good behavior and acknowlege it: great job getting home before curfew, i appreciate the effort you're making to follow the rules, etc.kids have a need to know what their boundaries are. this doesn't mean they won't test them. i never got into grounding, as it meant i had to be grounded also. taking away or restricting privileges can be more impactful. make sure that the loss of privilege is stated in the consequences. as your son understands how much fun it is to be with family, and that rules and boundaries come from a place of love and guidance, he will make better decisions and choices for himself. best of luck to you.

You ask the question is there something I can do? yes you can pray that all the work you did up to this point will stick and he will come to his senses, I am never surprised at mommies, when their little boys or little girls stop wanting to play with toys and find other things of interest. If a parent has done their very best to TEACH and RAISE a child, If the Child is not a BAD SEED, you can only sit back at the age of 16 and hope to see them make the choices that will allow you to breathe easier, however at the age of 16 wondering if there is something you can do, no simply look back at what you have done and hope it was enough.....

His dad is right... He has to live an learn... Just keep him away from hard drugs, I dont want him to end up like me... Weed is okay on weekends, alcohol is okay on weekends...

if i may join in, i may not be a mother of teen yet..just got 5 and 7yrs boys. i have been through this with my dad. he always talked to me in `a father style way' you know what i mean. lots of do`s and donts, i understand their point and i love them but being a teenager then, what i must/need to do is the least i can`t then. Probably im a girl and the eldest, but it doesnt matter. every teenagers goes on the same process.and now i got an early marriage at the age of 20. somehow i felt that they also admit the fact that they had mistakes on dealing with me when i was teen. what i wish them to be with me then..they are now to my brother, and they stick a lot to each other, they are best pals, anything that a parent should know my dad knows. would you believe that there are times that my dad and him peak girls on the beach for some fun. and sometimes open up girl`s stuff with both of them and shared their experiences. and my dad drinks up with his friends too, in that way my dad makes some simple investigations with my brother's friends. and he can give his advices too at the same time. the best person who can do so with your son's problem is your husband. as the others says you cannot just let him go.. not yet the right tym.. and you can still do a lot of strategies.

i am not a parent but his dad is right. unless your son is involved with drugs you need to step back and let him fall on his face. maybe a night in jail will scare him senseless. it is hard to let go but sometimes its best to let them live and learn.

Wow, I didn't read this one...it tells the whole story. I just answered your other question about the girl. You really need to set some boundaries and start acting fast, or your teen is going to spin out of control. First, The best advice is getting him ontrack with God, but that takes some time and effort from you and your husband. Second, your husband and you need to be on the same page as Parents.Third set some curfews, rules, and consequenses and follow through with them. Tell him you want to be able to trust him, but running around with these types of friends are going to lead you not to trust him.You need to cut off the friendships of these two people as well.And yes he needs to learn to make his own decisions, but he needs to be given the skills to do that by his parents. Sounds like the Dad needs to start steppin up, get into the picture and start setting some laws down for his son.

One question...who is the parent? You or him? Answer...YOU! If you don't want you son hanging with those people then you need to put your foot down. How would your parents have dealt with you?