I've recently said I'm still in love with him and want to be with him....he says he doesn't want a relationship right now he's not ready for one. He says he wants to still see me and sleep with me because he still likes me and cares about me etc.

So I've agreed at this point to continue this however the other night I asked him if I could come over and he asks why. I said "same as usual I want sex" he says ok then asks "is sex all we are now?" and I say "well I'm not sure how I feel. After our discussion I'll see how I feel after tonight."

Then he says "well if it's only about sex then I don't want to see but if it's you want to see me for more like feelings and emotions then ok come over."

Also, when i previously mentioned to him that i needed some space he became a bit angry towards me asking me if that meant i wanted to start seeing other people and i told him no it wasn't and he said to me that if i have my space he can't promise me that he'll be around when i'm done having my space???

So any insight into this guy's mind? im very confused?

You know this guy is not treating you well. Dont let him continue doing this. If i were you id cut all contact with him and just focus on you right now.

He just wants to sleep with you , he is using you , please just do yourself a favor and kick him to the curb

i definitely agree with that... obviously your guy is treating u like a sex symbol... why get rid of him and find a better man...

Oh by the way, in case you want to watch a funny video on love, here's a link : http://preacherinbluejeans.com/video...c-5-2006-.html. The funny part starts around 3mins into the intro. It's bo sanchez, author of How To Find Your One True Love.

Anna

I would say it would be better if you first make sure what you want, and if he fits to your criteria then continue or else move on.

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Alex Brown

it seems like the tables have turned, you wanted to be in a relationship and be closer at first but the sex has just made him come closer to you. If you aren't sure what you want take the space and if he realyl cares about you he will still be there for you when you finally decide what you want

I am pleased to hear that you are concerned abut the childrens welfare. that is what is important and too many parents get cought up in fighting eachother using the kids. I am in that situation being the step parent. however the bio mum is very viscous and uses her children to her x husband (my Partner.) its just so sad to watch and hard. its a big circle. you have the right attitude.

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Law of Attraction

well at the moment he isn't communicating with me at all so I guess I will wait and see exactly what he does. If he does leave his job and become unemployed do I just carry on allowing him to see the boys as if everything is fine &dandy??!!
I have tried all the "talking " to him business and writing to him etc so I just dont know what else to do.
Thanks for asking question.

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Leave him alone and move on. Obviously he "loved" this woman enough to marry her and have a child. He's still a player since he cheated on his wife with you. If he cheated on you in the past, what makes you think that he's only chatting and sleeping with you on the side? I don't mean to be too blunt, but it's the truth.

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Relationship A to Z

yes,i agree with that, there's a lot of man in the world even though its difficult to find a true love. But each one of us has its own soul mate, so be careful in choosing the right person.