as I stated before that I may be entering a "sort of verbally abusive" situation.....on sunday just to sum up....he was angry that I didn't cook breakfast right away and snapped at me passive agressively.....

I told him we didn't go food shopping....but he said he would go buy breakfast ..with an attitude....when he returned apparently he had been trying to call me but i left my cell phone in my purse ...and it was on vibrate...due to all the meetings I am always in at work....i forgot to change the ringer......he ofcourse came storming in and yelled at me requesting to see my phone.....he then accused me of being sneaky and humiliated me in front of his son...he yelled and angrily said he would not take my @@**!!!...i Ican't begin to tell you how upset i was..and i feel really lost and don't know what to do....i talked to my mom being that she lives below me about it ...as she saw in my eyes that i was crying.....of course her reponse is....think hard about marrying him..a part of me just wanted her to tell me ...break up with him...but my mom unfortunately is old school..and she also grew up in an unhealthy way of dealing with abuse...so she thinks all men are this way......i know i am educated but why do i feel confused about what to do....shouldn't this be action enough to break up with him? I am scared of him..and I am sad that I am ....i can't believe I am in this situation...please someone give me your thoughts......

you are in a rough situationyou will be his babysitter,I'd say leave him you cann't compete w/ ex & family

Hi neohio,

Thanks for your response. Things have gotten really bad. I know I have to break up with him but he lives in my apartment and I feel like I can't even go to my house now and feel safe.....i don't think he would hit me or anything but...he has such a temper...I can't believe I am afraid of him.....

I appreciate your words and support..and you are right I have to leave him.

Thank you.

You can get him to move out.. If only your name is on the rental contract........ Ask him to leave now.... and if he will not call the ploice and ask them to tell him to and have them watch him leave.....
Sorry my last reply to you was so quick and impersonnal I was in a hurry.....Right now he is in a real rough situation. One for what ever reason he will not let go of the past, and two he is a truck driver so he doesn't communicate well,being in a truck my himself all day long he is not able to express himself well at all, So he is not only getting angry at you but also at himself.....This is something he has to work out for him self YOU can not change him nor can u change his family, u see the child is his and his ex's u have no part in this except for u to raise while he is gone ....NOT a pretty situation........ BUT if u are afraid now watch when he see u will do nothing about it........

One more thng your mom did tell u to break up with him......... only she said it in such a way as not to get into an argument with u.....SHE SAID DON'T MARRY HIM>>>>>>>That is the same as get rid of him cause the older generation didn't live together before they were married