Hi all, I have been in a relationship for 8 months now. My girlfriend and I met and seemed to hit it off immediately. we dated for about 3 months and she and her two children moved in with me. We have alot in common and enjoy about all the same things. The problem is, when we started dating, I found out she had a problem with pain pill addiction. when we started to discuss moving in together, we discussed the pill issue and she told me that she was trying to quit. When she when they moved in, she was taking 6-8 pills a day, and told me then that this was an improvement from the previous year at about 18 a day. In the past 7 months she has cut down to 1 1/2 io 2 a day, and I know for sure she has without a doubt. The problem is, she has an ex-boyfriend that she still talked to when we met and I didn't have a problem with that until new years. A few days after New Years, she wanted me to do some work on the computer and I had to be logged in under her e-mail add. so she logged me in and got me set up to do this for her and then she had to leave to go to an appointment. after doing what she needed, there was an e-mail that came to her mail box, not thinking much about it, I opened it and it was from her ex. After reading this, I got curious and opened some of her old mail and sent mail. There were some e-mails that were on the the fine line of being unappropriate between them. so I confronted her with it and she asured me that there was nothing to worry about and that they were just good friends. I then contacted him and he told me the same thing and if it made me feel better, then he would just not have any contact with her. I discussed this with her and she said she didn't think it was fair but agreed to if it would help. The other morning when I got up, there was 1/2 a pain pill on the dresser where we keep them, and a few hours later it wasn't there and asked her if she had went ahead and taken it (not that it really mattered because it was planned for her to take it that day anyway) and she said no, she didn't know what happened to it. This got me upset because she and I are the only ones with access to it and obviously she had lied about it. Yesturday I was logged in under her name on the computer and just checked to see her e-mails, and she has still been in contact with him on occasion, nothing at all inappropriate, but this just bothers me because of the "little lies" that she has told me and I don't know what to do. I Love her and the children very much but a relationship has to be built on trust and I don't know if I can trust her. Any suggestions?

Have you two discussed therapy?

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no....we have not discussed therapy

It might be the best place to work things out. A third party (non-related) can give some valueable advice. Maybe even find out why the other person acts this way, maybe an underlying reason even she dosent know about.

Just a thought. It could really be helpful.

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Hi!

Did you read "How to find your one true love"?
Here's a video of author Bo Sanchez giving a talk on it:wait for the talk, kasi medyo mahaba ang intro...
pero it's worth it!30 min FUNNY video: Dec. 5, 2006 Video - Preacher In Blue Jeans

Anna

I would say as everything is not clear up till yet, so you don't have any other option, you have to trust. If something is going wrong then it will be apparent with time, then you have to take the decision. For now don't be upset, just take the life as it comes.

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Alex Brown

Sounds a lot like how my two rats were when I got them, but they were already a year old so training them has been tough. They both come crawling out onto me now, and its been only a few weeks! What I did was just leave the cage door open for as long as it took for her to get curious. You can put some food on the door of the cage to bribe her, but if she's not used to you I wouldn't handfeed her yet or she may get in the habit of biting. When she comes just have your hands there for her to sniff and nibble. Let her come out onto a table and explore with your hands there so they are less intimidating to her. Try to gently stroke her on the head. If you can pick her up, gently lift her and hold her against your chest until she gets really agitated. I'd do this for short periods of time multiple times a day so she gets accustomed to you. Good luck!

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RelationshipAtoZ

If she is paying a lawyer then this is a question he should of already answered for her. If the money is in trust he cannot have it and after it is trusted to her then he still cannot have it. She has already protected herself by lawyering up. Good move on her part. What in the world would he want to sue her for? Educational fees he paid?

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Talk to your wife seriously regarding the pill thing. Tel her what would be the out come of her health if she continue on taking it. So with her ex-boy friend, tell the guy to stop on sending emails to her because she's already married...Show it to your wife that you love her, give her some breakfast in bed, flowers even though there's no occasion. Sometimes woman's feelings and mind are changeable, it needs a lot of understanding and patience.