Hello there,

Newbie here looking for some advice, I don’t know if I want to break up with my GF.

A little background, we have been together 18 months and lived with each other for 6 of those. We rent the house, should we break up I could move in with my parents for a short while but I think she might find it more difficult, I could probably help her out with a few months rent but that’s all.

At first things were great but I am just not enjoying the relationship right now, you wouldn’t guess to meet me but I am very introverted (I think “Tears of a Clown” was written for me), I like to spend time by myself. Now I also very much enjoy spending time with my GF, I like to sit on the sofa, have tea and watch a DVD cuddle, kiss and the rest.

But I don’t want to do it every night, some nights I want to read a book, in a room, on my own but my GF thinks that I am shunning her when I do this and gets upset. I feel guilty about it, and then angry at her because she makes me feel guilty, and then I feel like a bastard for being angry for what she perceives as no reason.

I don’t have any time to do my hobbies because I have to spend all my time on the sofa with her in my arms.

She says I am cold-hearted quite often, I know I am quite a rational person and appear unemotional but that’s me.

She is really jealous, if I go out for an evening I have to remain in constant touch via SMS, if I don’t reply for 10 mins I know a teary phone call is imminent.

If I go away with friends or for work I will receive calls in the middle of the night and have to tell her that I miss her etc, even when I am having a perfectly good time probably sleeping, or having a beer with friends, I am lying to her but I feel I have to. I have always believed her when she says she can’t sleep and is missing me but I am beginning to think this has more to do with checking up on me. For the record I never have and never will cheat on her.

I feel like her clinginess and jealousy is a wedge between us, she is special to me and the sweetest person I have ever met but I feel like I am constantly treading water. I have just started a new job and I know I am definitely underperforming.

Its kind of Catch-22, I know she is this way because she is frightened to lose me but if it continues I think I will have to leave, I feel trapped.

Sorry for the long post. Please give me some advice, or at least reassure me that I am not a bastard, or be honest and tell me that I am a bastard!

I think you should end it , it sounds like you haven't got the time for such a serious relationship , and this is unfair to her.

if you really love your gf, talk it over with without any hesitation. It is best to discuss with her whatever is troubling her or if she has doubts. Ask her all her fears and possible reasons of jealousy. Convince her to open up about the whole thing and to be fair. Let your gf know what you have in mind and let her know also your uncertainties as well as anxieties and doubts. The two of you should discuss everything, include all concerns and decide that no matter where your discussion will lead to, your relationship must stay or make it even better.

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prettymarnz kinda summed up the best thing u cud do, seems like she means alot 2 u. Let her know how u feel.

I think you have to break up with her. Because you & she only wasting your time only. Here is no results of this relationship so forget her find new one or live alone as your wish.

Best of Luck

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