Hi, My name is Sissi and I am new to this. I wonder if anyone here has some good solid advice. I have been in an ongoing relationship with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. He is actually a great guy. One problem. He doesn't seem to like sex. I am the one with the drive and he is NEVER interested. He has always been this way but not as bad. I guess I am the one who initiated it from the start. My only problem is that since we haven't been together that way in 2 months... I am feeling neglected, unattractive, unloved and so alone. I have tried talking with him since the beginning and he feels badly and says it's not me. It's him. He re assures that I am very beautiful and he is very much attracted to me. He even went to the Dr and they prescribed a testosterone gel that is supposed to help his sex drive and even with that it's no better. I am growing more and more frustrated and because of it I am starting to nag him which he says turns him off even more.

He is 43 and I am 40. We both don't look our age at all. And I certainly don't feel 40.. so what can I do? He seems almost "lazy" about it. I have noticed that he can get an erection very easily with me of course having to provoke him some way.. but I have to beg him to make love to me... otherwise he prefers to lounge around. I understand that he works really hard and is tired and the kids (my kids) don't give us the privacy we desire and need. Any advice?
Thanks so much!
Sissi

I guess you can just say bye, I would like to be free for a month. Don't expect her to be joyful, she'll see right thru that. Why don't you just break off indifintely that would be better. If not she will never trust you again. She will think it was to date another girl or something like that. Your better off breaking it off completely. Give her a chance to find somebody else too

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We all have days that we feel unloved. One thing you can do is call a friend tell them how you're feeling . Hug your cat or dog , do something nice for someone else just for the heck of it. The worst thing you can do for yourself is have a pity party. Go out to the movies,take a bubble bath , do something nice for yourself,

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Acid Reflux

In a relationship it is normal to have sexual intercourse, but based on your problem I think you have to divert your interest in life. Though you are lucky to have some children I guess you should focus on something that can make your life more beautiful.