Ok this is a somewhat weird and complicated story, I will try to keep it summarized since it's just weird.

-we are 22 been going out since 18

I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 years now. Throughout it all we stayed together through thick and thins. Dad's going through cancer, relatives disliking the spouse and many other big big things that are just added stress. After about 2 years we moved out together.

Things went fine, the umph that made us so passionate slowly faded a bit but we both accepted it and both found peace in just the way we felt. Slowly though we began to have less sex, from 2-3 times a week to 1 time a month... after that she made a new friend at work who was the opposite as my girlfriend and for some reason I mention her as I think she contributes to the story in some unknown way.

She than starts to think that I am seeing a girl on the side. I admit I was friendly with this girl, sending texts talking about her. She was cool, I worked with her and saw her as a friend, nothing more. If even I didn't she was 17 at the time and had a boyfriend so there wasn't even that temptation. She somehow gets it in her head that I am cheating on her with this new girl, but never tells me until later.

What happens next is the females in her family plan a trip to Vegas- they all go and she meets a guy by accident. Basically a guy lined her like crazy, it didn't hurt he was a skydiving instructor and that she was mad at me for thinking I cheated on her. They got along but nothing happened in her week in Vegas. When she got back though they kept in touch and within a week we had broken up because "She didn't think I loved her anymore". She then decided to plan another trip down there with her sister in the next 2 months.

She kept contact with both him and me, I missed her like crazy and still loved her. With our contact she never let on that there was another guy and would shrug off the issue each time arguments ensued. After a week or so I found out via facebook that there was a guy, she posted pictures of him and my family called me the second they saw them. When I called her out on it she said things like "I've only been with 3 guys... I really just need to f#$@ this guy." or "There are pro's to f*@%ing the skydiver, free dives." and I found out she was going to be staying with the guy.

My thinking was that it was the first real time that another guy (a skydiver no less) was completed interested in her and really really wanted her so the extra attention and desire was really tempting. Although they did talk to each other on the phone often even though it was long distance and I guess built something.

Eventually through about a month she dropped him out of the blue and we got back together. At the times we were just hanging out still since neither of us really knew better so it just kinda happened. She told me she had just said like peace dude I can't do this anymore.

Things were great for a while, I mean really great. We were having sex all the time, we were like a new couple in the honeymoon phase again. Couldn't keep our hands off each other, leaving little notes, saying things that make older couples cringe it was real nice. But then.. she had that trip planned to Vegas which she had to go since her sister and her had booked the time and had non refundable tickets at the time.

When she went down she ended up going skydiving again- because not even I would change a place that has the best reputation for people not dying from jumping out of a plane she went back to the same place.. and dived with the same guy... awkward. Now I was cool with this since it would help her settle whatever reservations she has with this whole situation.. but there was one major problem. He had a girlfriend, so it was a no go altogether.. it completely put a damper on the closing of their relationship since they couldn't if they wanted to.

Anyways she came back- we tried to work through it but because the story has been so messed up by the 312 different versions I got when I was breaking up with her it doesn't really work and it leaves both of us frustrated. What I had proposed and what I had already been planning from just when we broke up was to move to Vancouver B.C. from Ontario. I had always wanted to do it but as a couple it is more difficult than just picking up and going. So I had already had it all settled, got my work to transfer me, let friends/family know.. I was just waiting for a date now.

Well regardless of the lingering Vegas stuff, she moved with me. Wow, I was just amazed she came with me. It really solidified that she wanted to be with me. But recently I don't know, it's just been getting weird again.

In the past since the second trip I have:

Seen her mapquest the distance from our house to Vegas
She said it was because she wanted to know how far from the golden something or other.. some saying

Kept his phone # in her phone under different names
Deleted to my knowledge-I never went through her phone on purpose, it just came up one time

Talked to him on phone briefly/texted him
She said it was because he wants her still and she was just like "Don't call me anymore"
--- although she hasn't actually called him, each time was just to say it's over but she didn't tell me about it either.

I mean, she must want to be with me if she left her family behind which are so important to her and has only me here. But she always has these conversations with that one sister that she always leaves the house for. She stalks his facebook and looks at youtube videos of him skydiving. She is semi-stalking him by the looks of it.

I don't know what to think- and I don't know what to do. The sex has slowed down again and is about 1 every 2 weeks. It might seem like that is what I care about but I have always believed that a sex life is a good indication to the non sex life of a couple. It seems like I have her heart but her loins are the property of this Mike guy.

I think the having a girlfriend has kept him in this unattainable state where she still has those carnal cravings for him and the problem is when she thinks of him she gets in this guilty over lovey mood I guess trying to compensate for the guilt.

She tells me she wouldn't care if he jumped and died and doesn't ever mention him and when we do she assures me there is nothing to worry about and it's done.

I can't help but think this is going to end up in some sort of bad. Whether she gets the balls to ask this guy to come visit her or she decides to go down there. Plus her best friend is planning a trip down to Vegas next year and she of course will be going.

Really- Moving out here was like starting fresh and I don't want to be setting myself up for disaster. What can I do to either mesh this out or prevent something from happening- or am I just over reacting and this is something that could almost be considered normal and will just pass.

Anything would be appreciated, and thank you if you took the time to read this entire post >.>

Yes, I personally believe that you are right. I will pray to god that you get what you want.
God bless you!

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