Hi there..Im kinda new to the whole forum thing on relationships so I'll try my best..

I have been in a raltionship for about three months now. We work together and we keep it on the low when we work the same shift. Now one of our mangers was tipped off about it and has been having meetings with either one of us. Since then its been hit or miss when it comes to me asking her out. We seem very much together, but I feel like she is pushing me away. I have tried to talk to her but to no avail. I did however write her a letter and told her how I felt. Is there any suggestions as to what to do?

I guess you'll have to understand her. Its good that you can see her being busy at work rather than busy of something else. If you have day offs try to invite her to dinner or give her snacks,etc. let her feel your presence.

I never really thought of it like that. Is there other ways to make her feel my presence?

Are you living near her apt. or something? Small things can be a great things to her. Send her emails, flowers, foods, or post a note on her table saying that " i miss you darling be with me tonight".

I suspect that your husband got himself into debt and was too embarrassed to tell, then it built up and he just put his head in the sand and hoped it would go awlay.
You have to take the lead here and sort out the debts - you know how to do this, debt counselling, see your bank, etc. I shan't give you advice on this. But you're right about the trust, he wasn't able to tell you something and that's what you have got to find out. Did he feel that, as 'man of the family' he was supposed to bring more money in and he's embarrassed because his wages wouldn't cover it? What did he spend the money on - incredible that he doesn't know, of course he does but he can't tell. It may have been silly stuff, magazines, a few pints, a takeaway, a taxi home .... al silly disposable stuff but money haemorrhages from the wallet with the silly expenses.
One of you has to take charge and you know it is you, so sit him down and read him the riot act. Give him pocket money every week and that's his allowance. If he can tell you what he's spent it on then, fine, it may be increased but all the time it is 'disappearing' then he is on a restricted budget. You won't be popular, but at least you will keep the roof over your head.
As for the trust issue, - well your marriages vows included "better, worse, richer, poorer" and all that - perhaps he was scared you might leave if you knew what a pickle he was in. Reassure him that you won't, and find out the truth.
Good luck

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