Her name is J. We get along so well and everywhere we go, people think we're together.

I met her through a friend, C -- who's like a brother to me. C and J are very good friends, and have been for over 2 years.

Lately J and I have been getting very close. We go out every weekend, even several times during the week. We call, text and email each other everyday.

The reason why I haven't made a move is because I was casually involved with another girl, T. I have broken up with her but we were still chatting to see if we can get it working again. A few days ago, I made it very clear to T that I am done with her.

I've told J everything about T and that I'm done with her.

J and I make fun of everything under the sun and have so much in common. We want the same things and love the same things.

We took a 3 day weekend holiday far out of town and slept on the same bed. No sex. That was when I was in the process of breaking up with T.

My worst fear is that if J turns me down, not only will I lose the most amazing woman I've ever met in my life, I may also lose C as a brotherly friend. I'll be shattered because these are the only friends I have in this town. I'll be out of the circle and be the loser forever.

Funny thing is, C has always been telling me to go after her but silly of me to treat her like a buddy rather than someone I fancy.

Is it too late? Should I make a move or just get over it?

im kind of in the same situation. im in love w/ my best friend, but i dont want to break our friendship if things dont work out as boyfriend and girlfriend. and, i dont really have many friends in my town, either. so, i dont care what alot of the kids in my grade think of me. as long as you have ur closest friends, evrything is gunna b alright. i think u shud go for it. i did. and i have a date w/ my crush 2day. if c is telling u 2 go for it, then he shudnt stop bein ur friend just bcu u took his advice.

Yes you should make a move! Otherwise you will be kicking yourself for years to come. Your window of opportunity will only be open so long. Then she will be attracted to someone else and move on. So unless you want to be left behind, make your move.

The only way to get the best rewards in life is to take risk!

Good Luck.

Nina

nina? i agree with u completely. but i need some urgent advice of my own. im in love w/ my best friend j, and he was my 1st friend(i met him in 1st grade). thing is, i rlly want 2 date him, but i dont want 2 ruin our friendship if things dont work out. what do u think i shud do? take it slow, or dive head first?

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hey bestfriendlove,

Has your friend ever indicated he thought about you anyway other than as a friend? If not, you may just want to take it a bit slower. Instead of going after him aggresively, start with a little flirting and see how he reacts to that.

Maybe he just needs a bit of a nudge and flirting with him could give him that nudge.

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well, wen we were little, we had a teny on and off relationship, but we were only in 3rd grade. ive been asking him about our relationship l8ly, and i said i didnt want 2 ruin our friendship. our relationship was gr8 untill 1 grl came along. he didnt like her, none of us did, but she was so bossy and aggressive, we had 2 let her hang out w/ us. then, she made him dump me and go out w/ her. in 4th grade, i helped him get the courage 2 tell her that he didnt want 2 go out w/ her and that she was bein rlly bossy 2 all of us. hes such a nice guy, and he didnt even want 2 hurt HER feelins. he dusnt rlly stick up 4 himself that much either. im not rlly a shallow grly grl, and i stick up 4 him alot, but i dont kno wat im gunna do wen we go 2 different skools.

Even when you go to different schools you can stay in touch with texting, my space or facebook. Then you can arrange to meet up somewhere and see a movie together or hang out together. And when you hang out, flirt a bit with him. If he flirts back, you are on your way...... :-)

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thnk u SO much.send me a fr(frend request), k? bi, i gotta go 2 my NA orientation.(newark academy, my new skool)

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o, cud u help my bro w/ sumtin 2? he dusnt go on this site and i dont want 2 show him it cuz im kinda embarassed 2 b goin on this site myself, i mean, im only 11. so, he (im pretty sure) has a crush on this grl A. now, my bro T is rlly good friends w/ her. evry1 thinks theyre 2gether. at camp, they even had 2 go on a pretend date and pretend 2 break up 2 get the kids off their backs. if he has a crush on her, wat shud he do? wat shud he do 2 get the kids off his back?

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If you truly love her, make a move and show to her that she is special to you. Just like they say opportunity only come once in life.

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