I've been searching all over the internet looking for answers and I don't know where else to turn. ANY advice from you, being someone on the outside looking it, will be greatly appreciated.

My boyfriend of 2 yrs broke up with me on Tuesday. And on Wednesday I quit my job (just a stupid waitressing job, nothing major), packed my clothes and went to my parents house. We have been breaking up for the past few months off and on, but ultimately getting back together. This time- it seems final.
The major problem between us is that I am not family oriented. He is SUPER close with his family, and while I am close with mine - they are not involved in every aspect of my life. His family liked me in the begining, but now they hate me and are very vocal to my bf about how they do not want him to be with me - I'm not the right girl for him.
He says I'm too irresponsible and need to grow up because my parents spoil me too much. I'm 25, I realize that they spoil me and that it is not healthy for me in the long run, but it is all i've ever known. But since meeting my bf, I've enrolled in college and picked a career to better myself so that we had a good future together. With school being so time consuming, I can only work part-time. He says that I don't help out enough. I pay for groceries, electric, heat & cable. I would say that is helping out ALOT.
Yesterday I drove to our apartment and waited for him to get out of work. He did not know I was coming. Stupid, I know. I know. He says "You shouldn't have come here. You need to accept that this is happening. I've made my decision, this is whats best for me. You need to go and take time to get over it. You'll be okay. This is what I need, I can't be in a relationship with you anymore." Needless to say, I was in tears. Looking at him wondering how he could say these things to me as I am crying to him in pain. Only wanting him to hug me. He says "you need to go, I have people coming over." Yeah great, good for you - so I left.
I'm willing to change (even though he's heard me say this before) everything! I realize we need seperate lives. He needs to be able to go out with his friends & family when he wants to, as much as he wants to. And I should do the same. I realize I've smothered him.
Do you think there is any chance he will realize that this is not the right thing to do? How can I get him back? I tried asking him to just take a break from me and see if this is really what he wants. He said "I dont want to string you along, calling this a break, when the end result is going to be me telling you that I still want to end this."

I am beyond heartbroken. I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with this man. I adore him. I adore our time together. I just lost the love of my life and I can't believe how painful it is.

Sorry for the rant...

As much as it pains me to say this, I believe that he has made a definitive decision to end the relationship. I'm certainly not privy to the details and dynamics of your shared relationship, but it appears that mutual dissatisfactions existed within... enough so that he has opted to terminate matters and move one.

Statistically speaking, many couples under age 30 exit relationships between 18 months to three years after they first begin. The heightened pleasurable emotions that existed when a relationship began subside within this time-frame. A person's true self appears (for better or worse), and problems with interpersonal conflict begin to surface... communication breaks down, unwillingness to compromise and empathize, and self-motivated pursuits usurp relationship boundaries.

I'm sincerely sorry for your loss. I'm certain that it pains you and that your world has become topsy-turvy. Moreover, it is exceedingly difficult to be witness to a lost partner moving on with their life, especially if it appears to be seemless and even joyful for them to be single again. It will certainly take time to heal from what must be like losing your partner in life.

The advice I would offer is to you is this... begin with acceptance that the relationship has ended. Seek comfort with friends and family, familiar places that bring you happiness and alleviate pain. It's ok to hurt, it's alright to cry, but don't punish yourself over the loss. Be good to yourself and have faith that things do occur for a reason. Sometimes the course of our lives is guided by much larger forces in the universe that have a more loving and rewarding plan in store.

Best of luck, my friend,
PscyhGrad

Consider the following. We humans are social beings. We come into the world as the result of others' actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others' activities. For this reason it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others.
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